Do you hate yourself? Healing from self-hatred

Do you hate yourself? Healing from self-hatred

Author: ABC Australia February 22, 2025 Duration: 29:44

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Many of us have felt self loathing at some point in our lives — maybe when you've failed at an important task at work, or lost an important relationship.

But some people hate themselves all the time — their inner monologue is a constant drumbeat of self-criticism and self-loathing. 

Where does this kind of all-encompassing self-hate come from? And is there a way to unlearn it?

We speak to psychiatrist Dr Blaise Aguirre, author of I Hate Myself: Overcome Self-Loathing and Realize Why You're Wrong About You. 

This episode discusses the topic of suicide - please take care while listening.

If you're looking for something to listen to next, check out our episode Can we trust our memories?

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