907. The pressure you put on yourself is the pressure your child will inherit with Dr. Shefali

Dr. Shefali, bestselling author + expert in conscious parenting, joins us for an honest conversation about raising emotionally resilient children in a world that is increasingly disconnected. She shares why parents must stop trying to perfect themselves—and start showing up fully as they are. We talk about the hidden ways anxiety, achievement, social media, and performance-based parenting shape our kids, and why true connection starts with our own nervous system. Dr. Shefali explains how to raise children who trust themselves instead of chasing validation, success, or approval from the outside world. She also gets real about the different ways boys + girls are being impacted by modern culture, from shame + disconnection to self-abandonment + the pressure to perform. This episode will challenge how you think about parenting + personal growth. We also talk about:  Why parents can’t “out-perfect” their unconscious How children borrow regulation + a sense of safety from us The difference between connection + simply being happy together Why performance-based parenting is no longer working Social media, comparison, beauty standards + the “perception prison” Raising boys with less shame around emotions, sexuality + masculinity Why girls are learning to be perceived before they learn to be Parentification, self-abandonment + emotional caretaking How to help children develop inner authority + self-trust Dr. Shefali’s new books, Raising Conscious Sons + Raising Conscious Daughters Resources: Books: https://www.drshefali.com/raisingconscious-daughters-sons/   Sponsors:  The Real Real | Get $25 off your first purchase when you go to therealreal.com/ALMOST30. Ritual | Save 25% on your first month at https://Ritual.com/ALMOST30.  Upwork | Visit https://Upwork.com right now and post your job for free.  Rebel | Go to https://fromrebel.com for home, baby, outdoor, and more, all at up to 70% off the brands you already love. Larineco | Get 50% off at https://buylarine.com/ALMOST30. EllaOla | Go to https://EllaOla.com/ALMOST30 for 20% off your first purchase. Instant Hydration | Go to https://instanthydration.com/ALMOST30 and use code ALMOST30 for over 40% off your first subscription order.  BetterHelp | Sign up and get 10% off at https://BetterHelp.com/almost30. The Absorption Company | Go to https://absorbmore.com and enter ALMOST30 at checkout for up to 35% off your first order. To advertise on this podcast please email: partnerships@almost30.com. Learn More: Get your copy of Almost 30, A definitive guide to a life you love for the next decade and beyond. https://almost30.com/book Listen to Morning Microdose! A quick trip into higher consciousness - https://almost30.com/morning-microdose Watch on YouTube - https://youtube.com/Almost30Podcast Join our community - https://www.facebook.com/Almost30podcast/groups Follow: https://instagram.com/almost30podcast https://tiktok.com/@almost30podcast Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: almost30.com/disclaimer.