Why Chasing a Better You Is Making You Miserable with Seth Gillihan, PhD

Why Chasing a Better You Is Making You Miserable with Seth Gillihan, PhD

Author: Anna Seewald October 18, 2025 Duration: 48:44

Seth Gillihan, PhD says the path to peace isn't fixing yourself — it's expanding yourself. We explore how to stop chasing "better" and start living fully, now. We'll explore mindfulness practices, stoic wisdom, and practical tools for quieting anxiety, facing fear, and reclaiming presence in a culture that conditions us to believe we are broken. 

  • 00:00 — Why we're wrong about self-improvement
  • 02:45 — The hidden cost of chasing perfection
  • 07:30 — The real location of happiness
    A surprising shift in perspective that could change your life.
  • 12:15 — Self-worth sabotage
    How society quietly convinces us we're not enough — and what to do about it.
  • 17:40 — Self-expansion vs. self-improvement
    A game-changing distinction most people miss entirely.
  • 22:10 — The overlooked truth about worry and how to break free from it.
  • 28:55 — Doing it scared
  • 34:20 — Stoic practices that actually work
    Simple, practical tools that could transform your daily life.
  • 40:10 — Secrets to avoiding burnout
    A mindset shift and daily ritual that keeps energy high.
  • 45:00 — The closing truth

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Anna Seewald hosts Authentic Parenting, a space for those who believe that raising children is deeply intertwined with growing themselves. This podcast moves beyond quick tips and strategies to explore the inner work required to parent with intention. Conversations here are grounded in a trauma-informed perspective, offering a compassionate lens through which to examine family patterns and reactions. The core idea is that by consciously addressing our own histories and connecting with our authentic selves, we can interrupt cycles of generational stress. What you’ll hear in each episode are thoughtful discussions and practical insights aimed at transforming daily challenges into opportunities for connection. The goal isn’t perfection, but fostering a family life with more calm, understanding, and genuine joy. It’s about creating an environment where children can thrive without carrying burdens forward. Tuning into this podcast feels like a supportive dialogue, reminding you that the journey of parenting is also a profound path of personal discovery. It’s for anyone ready to embrace the motto of raising their children while growing themselves.
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