11: How to Stop Obsessing Over the Affair Partner

11: How to Stop Obsessing Over the Affair Partner

Author: Monica Humpal, MCC May 15, 2026 Duration: 23:20

We all do it. It's hard not to. We stalk their social media. We ruminate over their looks, their photos, who they are with, and what it was about them that attracted our partner. This is normal after infidelity, but can quickly become an obsession. Let's try to break that obsessive habit together.

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Walking through the aftermath of infidelity while choosing to remain in the relationship is a path few understand, and Betrayed & Stayed exists specifically for that journey. Host Rev. Monica Humpal brings a unique perspective as someone who has lived through the betrayal herself and now works as a Master Certified Coach. Each episode feels like a candid conversation in a trusted space, tackling the complex layers of grief, the slow rebuilding of trust, and the practical realities of setting boundaries. This isn't about simplistic advice or pretending the process is easy. Instead, you'll hear genuine discussions about what forgiveness can and cannot mean, the emotional labor of true reconciliation, and how to navigate the days when hope feels thin. Designed for both men and women, the podcast provides a blend of personal reflection and actionable wisdom, acknowledging the pain while focusing on the deliberate work of rebuilding something new from the fragments. If you're looking for real talk without the sugar-coating, this is a place to find solidarity and grounded guidance.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 14

Betrayed & Stayed
Podcast Episodes
2: I Stayed After Infidelity ... Now What? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:29
What happens after you decide to stay — even temporarily — following infidelity? For many betrayed partners, staying doesn't bring relief. It brings confusion, shame, pressure, and a constant sense of urgency to "figure…
1: Why I Hate New Year's Resolutions (Especially After Betrayal) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 28:02
New Year's resolutions promise fresh starts—but after betrayal, they often leave us feeling behind, ashamed, or broken. In this first episode of Betrayed & Stayed, Monica explores why traditional goal-setting fails those…
Official Trailer [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 7:45
If you're here, chances are your life didn't turn out the way you thought it would. You discovered the betrayal. Your world cracked open. And then you made a choice that not everyone understands—you stayed. Or maybe you'…