25. Keeping the Spark & Making Love Last

25. Keeping the Spark & Making Love Last

Author: Sara Tang, Sexologist & Coach February 14, 2020 Duration: 1:02:23

How do we keep that initial passion for sex and intimacy alive for the long-haul?

 

Highly sought after sexual/marital psychotherapist and founder of The Academy of Lasting Love, Nikki Green shares some illuminating lessons with Sara and co-host Kat from over 20 years of experience primarily working with women in Hong Kong.

 

She believes that great sex can definitely survive over the long-haul however it's a myth that it will just happen spontaneously and naturally. Sex is usually full of passion early on in the relationship, but the reality is that this addictive "dopamine high" gradually drops as time passes, and extra effort is required if a couple wants to maintain a healthy sex life.

 

Nikki emphasizes being deliberate around keeping that spark alive throughout your relationship, regardless of desire. In her view, relying on desire alone isn't enough to keep a relationship consistently juicy as desire goes up or down at any time.

 

Instead, making sex in a relationship last is about a commitment to connection, adventure, intimacy and requires a whole different mindset. A big part of which includes scheduling and showing up fully. Listen in as Nikki lays out a roadmap to make this a reality in any relationship!

 

Download Nikki's free Spice of Love mini-course – Conversations for Deeper and more Fulfilling Intimacy, which includes questions you can ask each other to immediately improve intimacy and erotic satisfaction. 

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Ever wondered what happens when you take the awkwardness out of talking about sex and replace it with genuine curiosity and a bit of humor? That’s the space Better in Bed | A Sex & Sexuality Podcast with Sarasense occupies each week. Hosted by sexologist and coach Sara Tang, these conversations feel more like insightful chats with a knowledgeable friend than a clinical lecture. The podcast moves freely across topics tied to health, culture, and our personal relationships, reflecting the many ways sexuality touches our lives. You’ll hear honest discussions that demystify desires, tackle societal taboos, and explore the practical aspects of intimacy, all with a refreshingly light touch. It’s not about prescribing one right way; it’s about creating a comfortable environment for exploration and self-discovery. Whether the subject is fitness, communication, or cultural norms, Sara’s approach normalizes asking questions we often keep to ourselves. Tuning into this podcast means joining a dialogue that prioritizes understanding over judgment, and playfulness over pressure. The result is a collection of episodes that genuinely aim to make conversations about sex-and the experiences themselves-feel more accessible and significantly less intimidating for everyone involved.
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