43. Rekindling Sexual Desire

43. Rekindling Sexual Desire

Author: Sara Tang, Sexologist & Coach February 6, 2022 Duration: 58:03

How can we rekindle the sexual desire for a long-term partner? Or is desire always destined to fade?

 

On this pre-Valentine's Day episode, Sara chats with Dr. Kristin Zeising, a clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist, and co-host Mo from the Ho Ho Hong Kong podcast, and we tackle all things sexual desire.

 

Kristin shares the latest scientific thinking on the sexual response cycle, and we discuss the different styles of sexual desire - spontaneous vs responsive.

 

We learn that sexual desire doesn't have to fade in long-term relationships, the nature of desire just changes over time.

 

By managing the biggest drivers and brakes that impact our sexual desire, we can take back control of our sex drives, and sex lives.

 

We also challenge the most common myths surrounding sexual desire, such as whether men really do want sex more than women and whether libido always drops off with age.

 

This episode offers practical strategies for lovers who are looking to spice things up and rekindle their sexual spark. So if you're struggling with sexual desire in your relationship due to the pandemic or simply life's daily challenges, have a listen! 

 

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Ever wondered what happens when you take the awkwardness out of talking about sex and replace it with genuine curiosity and a bit of humor? That’s the space Better in Bed | A Sex & Sexuality Podcast with Sarasense occupies each week. Hosted by sexologist and coach Sara Tang, these conversations feel more like insightful chats with a knowledgeable friend than a clinical lecture. The podcast moves freely across topics tied to health, culture, and our personal relationships, reflecting the many ways sexuality touches our lives. You’ll hear honest discussions that demystify desires, tackle societal taboos, and explore the practical aspects of intimacy, all with a refreshingly light touch. It’s not about prescribing one right way; it’s about creating a comfortable environment for exploration and self-discovery. Whether the subject is fitness, communication, or cultural norms, Sara’s approach normalizes asking questions we often keep to ourselves. Tuning into this podcast means joining a dialogue that prioritizes understanding over judgment, and playfulness over pressure. The result is a collection of episodes that genuinely aim to make conversations about sex-and the experiences themselves-feel more accessible and significantly less intimidating for everyone involved.
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