46. Sex FAQs - How do I Open My Relationship?

46. Sex FAQs - How do I Open My Relationship?

Author: Sara Tang, Sexologist & Coach March 22, 2022 Duration: 44:07
Curious to try an open relationship, but don't know quite where or how to start?

 

On this episode, Sara chats with relationship coach Valentina Tudose (http://happyeverafter.asia) to answer your most common questions about open relationships, such as:

 

  1. What basic ground rules should I set if I'm just starting out with open relationships
  2. How can I handle my intense attraction to a new lover since I started to open my relationship with my spouse?
  3. I want to have an open relationship, but how do I manage my jealousy?
  4. How do I bring up an open relationship to a partner that has been previously unreceptive?

 

Some ground rules that Valentina and I discuss for an open relationship include: prioritizing your partner, having regular check-ins, communicating your needs with compassion, and a strong commitment to radical honesty.

 

We also share tips around managing jealousy and how when used constructively, jealousy can be a useful tool to help us address issues and get what we need.

 

We also offer reminders and tips for couples who are in the process of opening up their relationship to think about it as if they're embarking on a joint adventure or an exciting journey together. 

 

If you're interested in open relationships, we suggest bringing up the conversation regarding your values and beliefs around non-traditional relationship models early in the dating process to avoid a future mismatch and heartbreak.

 

This episode is a must-listen if you and/or your partner are curious about non-monogamy or trying to work up the courage to open your relationship.

 

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  • Detailed show notes for this episode here.

Ever wondered what happens when you take the awkwardness out of talking about sex and replace it with genuine curiosity and a bit of humor? That’s the space Better in Bed | A Sex & Sexuality Podcast with Sarasense occupies each week. Hosted by sexologist and coach Sara Tang, these conversations feel more like insightful chats with a knowledgeable friend than a clinical lecture. The podcast moves freely across topics tied to health, culture, and our personal relationships, reflecting the many ways sexuality touches our lives. You’ll hear honest discussions that demystify desires, tackle societal taboos, and explore the practical aspects of intimacy, all with a refreshingly light touch. It’s not about prescribing one right way; it’s about creating a comfortable environment for exploration and self-discovery. Whether the subject is fitness, communication, or cultural norms, Sara’s approach normalizes asking questions we often keep to ourselves. Tuning into this podcast means joining a dialogue that prioritizes understanding over judgment, and playfulness over pressure. The result is a collection of episodes that genuinely aim to make conversations about sex-and the experiences themselves-feel more accessible and significantly less intimidating for everyone involved.
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