538. When Good Women Stop Being Nice with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

538. When Good Women Stop Being Nice with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Author: Jody Moore November 7, 2025 Duration: 52:58

Many of us learned early on that being good meant following the rules, keeping everyone happy, and never causing discomfort. So maybe you find yourself saying yes when really, you mean no. Perhaps you agree to host the family gathering, even when you're already overwhelmed, or give in to your teenager's demands because you can't stand their anger.

 

This week, I'm joined by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to explore the crucial difference between compliance and true goodness. As an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a PhD in counseling psychology, Jennifer brings unique insight into how religious communities can inadvertently teach us to abandon ourselves in the name of belonging, and she's here today to illuminate exactly how we mistake being good for being compliant.

 

Join us today as Jennifer shares practical wisdom about the difference between being kind and being compliant, why prioritizing other people's comfort over your own integrity is actually harmful, and how to recognize when your resentments are telling you something important. This episode is your roadmap for moving from people-pleasing to authentic living while still maintaining meaningful relationships.

 

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://jodymoore.com/538


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