557. What Being Nice Is Really Costing You

557. What Being Nice Is Really Costing You

Author: Jody Moore March 20, 2026 Duration: 26:54

What if being nice is actually holding you back more than you realize?

 

Most of us have been taught that being kind, agreeable, and easygoing is a virtue. But when "nice" turns into people-pleasing, avoiding the truth, or saying yes when you really mean no, it starts to cost you in ways you may not have fully considered.

 

Tune in this week as I break down what being nice is really costing you, and how it shows up in your relationships, work, and everyday interactions. You'll also hear why your brain believes being nice is useful, even when it's clearly not serving you, and a more powerful way to approach your interactions by balancing honesty and kindness so you can communicate with integrity while still being considerate of others.

 

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://jodymoore.com/557

 

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