When To Tell Your Kids They're Black (with Dr Beverly Daniel Tatum)

When To Tell Your Kids They're Black (with Dr Beverly Daniel Tatum)

Author: Black Ballad April 10, 2022 Duration: 50:58

No black parent looks forward to having that conversation – the one where you explain to your sweet child what it means to be racialised as 'black'.


But how do we prepare our children for the realities of racism, while still encouraging a strong, positive sense of identity? How do we go about raising black kids in mostly white environments? And can we come back to the question of multiethnic households once again?


Renowned psychologist and best-selling author Dr Beverly Daniel Tatum explains how we raise black children who are confident, savvy and ready for the world, without burdening them with the trauma of racism.


Find out more about the revised 20 year anniversary edition of Dr Beverly's book, Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?: And Other Conversations About Race, here.


Find out more about Laura Henry-Allain's children's book, My Skin, Your Skin: Let's Talk About Race, Racism and Empowerment, here.


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Black Ballad Presents: The Survival Guide moves beyond the polished highlights to explore the full, textured reality of raising children as a Black woman in Britain. This podcast creates a vital space for honest dialogue, tackling the joys, complexities, and unspoken challenges that define the maternal experience. Each episode features candid conversations with a range of voices, from everyday parents to influential figures like Jamelia, Laura Henry-Allain, and Dr. Beverly Tatum Daniel, as well as the community collective Black Mums Upfront. Listeners will find a mix of personal storytelling, practical advice, and deep dives into topics often left out of mainstream parenting discussions-including intimacy, identity, mental load, and navigating systemic pressures. Produced by Black Ballad, the series builds a collective wisdom that feels more like a necessary chat with a trusted friend than a standard advice show. It’s a resource for solidarity, reflection, and genuine strategy, meeting listeners wherever they are in their journey. The conversations here are specifically for and by Black British mothers, offering relatable perspectives and survival tactics that resonate long after an episode ends. Tune in for a podcast that refuses to simplify motherhood, instead honoring its multifaceted nature with clarity and warmth.
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