Silence + Solitude

Silence + Solitude

Author: Anchored Media Network May 19, 2026 Duration: 48:40

In this deeply personal episode of Blessed and Bossed Up, Tatum returns after finals season to continue the book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer.

This conversation explores the first practice for “unhurrying” your life: silence and solitude.

From motherhood and entrepreneurship to law school and spiritual formation, Tatum shares how busyness, noise, and constant stimulation can quietly disconnect us from the presence of God — and how reclaiming moments of stillness can transform our spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being.

She unpacks:

  • Why boredom used to be a gift
  • How technology keeps us spiritually distracted
  • Learning to practice God’s presence in everyday moments
  • Why the wilderness is not weakness, but strength
  • The difference between solitude and isolation
  • How internal noise impacts peace, anxiety, and emotional health
  • Why silence is essential for healing, clarity, and abiding in Christ


This episode is both a conviction and an invitation: to slow down, reconnect with God, and create rhythms that cultivate peace instead of chaos.

Key Takeaways

Boredom Was Once Sacred

Before smartphones and endless stimulation, boredom created space for creativity, imagination, reflection, and connection. Today, we often fill every quiet moment with scrolling, entertainment, or mental noise — missing opportunities to connect with God.

God Is Present Beyond the Prayer Closet

Tatum reflects on a revelation that changed her relationship with God: His presence isn’t confined to designated “quiet times.” Through the Holy Spirit, God is present while washing dishes, driving, making coffee, or watching children play.

The Wilderness Is a Place of Strength

Referencing Jesus in the wilderness, this episode reframes difficult seasons not as punishment or weakness, but as places where God’s strength is revealed most powerfully.

Silence Is More Than External Quiet

True silence includes:

  • External silence (turning off noise and distractions)
  • Internal silence (quieting worry, fantasies, overthinking, anxiety, and mental chatter)

Solitude Is Healing

Solitude is not isolation. It is intentional time with God where healing, self-awareness, conviction, and restoration take place.

Discussion Topics from This Episode

  • Practicing the presence of God in ordinary moments
  • The emotional impact of constant stimulation
  • Why high-achieving women often struggle with silence
  • Internal criticism, perfectionism, and vulnerability
  • Creating rhythms of rest instead of cycles of burnout
  • How Jesus modeled retreat, prayer, and solitude

Mentioned in This Episode

The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry

A powerful book exploring how hurry, distraction, and overload are shaping modern spiritual life — and practical ways to slow down and reconnect with God.

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Every week on Blessed + Bossed Up, you’ll find a conversation that sits at the intersection of practical business hustle and grounded spiritual faith. This isn’t about keeping those parts of life separate; it’s about integrating them to build a life of purpose and impact. Host Tatum Temia Ayomike brings her experience as an award-winning entrepreneur, author, and executive producer to each episode, but she comes first as a devoted Christian and a sister on the same path. The Anchored Media Network podcast provides a space where purposeful women can gather to discuss what it truly means to let God lead as the CEO of their ambitions. You’ll hear honest talk about the challenges of entrepreneurship, the necessity of an uncompromising faith, and the daily strategies-both divine and practical-needed to move forward. It’s for anyone who believes their success is a form of stewardship and wants to be equipped with clarity and courage. Tune in for a blend of mentorship, real-world insights, and spiritual encouragement designed to help you navigate the call on your life and business with confidence.
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