The Broken Hearted Meditator

The Broken Hearted Meditator

Author: Susan Piver March 21, 2025 Duration: 14:14

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Perhaps contrary to popular belief, meditation does not make us feel all zen. Rather, it actually makes us feel more deeply.

Discussed in this episode:

Meditation Heightens Emotions – It doesn’t numb feelings but makes them more vivid.

Trauma-Sensitivity is Important – Meditation can help with grief and sorrow but may amplify trauma. The practice should be handled with great care.

Options for Working with Strong Emotions in Meditation:

Stop meditating if it’s overwhelming.

Label emotions as “thinking” and return to the breath.

Focus on the physical sensation of the emotion without engaging in its story.

Feelings vs. Thoughts – Emotions are real, but the stories we tell about them create suffering. “Feel the feeling, drop the story.” –Pema Chodron

Personal Stories:

A heartbreak revealed that suffering was increased by the thoughts added to the reality of loss. The loss (a breakup) was not optional, but the additional thoughts were.

A career setback and a chance encounter with an experienced meditator taught that meditation isn’t about avoiding emotions but facing them.

Meditation’s Impact – It is rare that anything happens while meditating. It’s actually pretty hard and boring. However! Progress shows up “off the cushion” as increased wisdom, compassion, and resilience.



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Music by: Derek O'Brien

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In Buddhism Beyond Belief with Susan Piver, the ancient wisdom of Tibetan Buddhism meets the messy reality of modern living. Susan Piver, drawing from three decades of personal practice and her role guiding a large online meditation community, acts as a thoughtful companion rather than a distant teacher. Each conversation in this podcast moves beyond theoretical doctrine to explore how core teachings-from the four noble truths to the practice of the paramitas-can be woven into the fabric of daily experience. You’ll hear discussions that feel applicable whether you’re dealing with stress, navigating relationships, or simply seeking a more grounded sense of purpose. The tone is accessible and personal, focusing on direct experience over dogma. This approach makes the podcast a resource for anyone curious about integrating contemplative practice into areas of health, fitness, and personal spirituality, regardless of their background. It’s about finding practical clarity and an open heart amidst life’s constant changes, with Susan offering insights that feel both timeless and immediately useful.
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