Episode 223 - Feed love or Feed Pain

Episode 223 - Feed love or Feed Pain

Author: JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Teacher November 30, 2025 Duration: 39:38

We constantly make small choices that shape the reality of our relationships, whether with our partner, children, friends, or colleagues. They determine whether we deepen connection or cause resentment and distance to quietly grow.

Every moment holds a fork in the road: Will I feed love, or will I feed pain?

In this episode, we look the difference between love and attachment.

  • Love is the wish that another person be happy.

  • Attachment is the wish that they make us happy.

Attachment is the habit of selfishness in relationships that causes pain. The strength of a relationship is directly proportional to how much more love is practiced, rather than attachment.

Buddhist Teacher, JoAnn Fox, also shares a simple mindfulness practice to help us feed love and not pain.

All the happiness there is in this world 

Arises from wishing others to be happy. 

And all the suffering there is in this world 

Arises from wishing oneself to be happy.

Shantideva

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