In this episode of Cancer and Comedy, Dr. Brad Miller and Deb Krier explore what it means to live a full life and finish strong, even in the face of cancer, illness, and loss. Dr. Brad shares the powerful story of his longtime friend Joe Buddar—a pastor, musician, and real estate agent—who continued to serve, connect, and give right up to his final days.
You’ll hear how Joe set a meaningful, attainable goal to attend Easter worship in person despite being in hospice care, how he used his remaining time to bless others with a final benediction, and what his life teaches us about goals, connection, faith, and legacy.
Takeaways
- Cancer and Comedy’s mission
- Healing cancer-impacted people through hope and humor—“turning the grim into a grin.” [0:00:00–0:01:53]
- Invitation to join the Cancer and Comedy community and access resources.
- Bad Dad Jokes & Lightness Amid Struggle
- Dr. Brad’s “muffler” dream and cheese grater jokes keep things playful, showing the role of humor even during serious conversations. [0:01:55–0:02:23]
- Who Was Joe Buddar? [0:03:02–0:09:35]
- Dr. Brad’s 50+ year friendship with Joe, beginning in high school.
- Serving together as pastors in neighboring churches and sharing staff.
- Mission work in Colombia serving people in challenging conditions.
- Joe as a real estate agent who sold Dr. Brad the home he lives in.
- Joe’s support of Dr. Brad through his own cancer journey.
- Joe’s Final Year & His Big Goal [0:09:35–0:16:32]
- Joe’s declining health and more than a year in hospice care.
- Attending church virtually every week via YouTube.
- Setting a specific, meaningful goal: to attend Easter service in person.
- The power of SMART goals: specific, meaningful, attainable, time-bound. [0:14:48–0:16:32]
- Showing Up When Life Is Hard [0:15:44–0:18:00]
- Joe preparing and delivering a benediction at Easter, even in weakness.
- The importance of simply showing up and letting your presence matter.
- Deb and Brad emphasize setting attainable goals and communicating them to those who care about you.
- Intentional Living, Planning, and Final Gifts [0:18:00–0:21:07]
- Planning your funeral/service, music, and details as a gift to loved ones.
- Examples from Deb’s mother and others who “put their affairs in order.” [0:19:25–0:20:52]
- How intentional planning eases the burden on those left behind.
- Staying Connected: Community as Medicine [0:20:52–0:23:02]
- Joe staying connected with family, pastors, chaplains, and church friends.
- Using technology (YouTube, virtual services) to maintain community.
- “Community, relationships, friendships are medicine.” [0:21:07–0:22:35]
- Bringing Your Gifts to the Very End [0:22:35–0:23:44]
- Joe using his gifts in music, liturgy, preaching, and presence to serve others to the end.
- Encouragement for listeners to offer what they can—kind words, reconciliation, or simple presence.
- Speaking Truth While You Can [0:18:00–0:24:27]
- Having important conversations before it’s too late—with family, friends, and community.
- Dr. Brad’s story of his father gathering the family to share personal words and practical details.
- Courage, Faith, and Not Being Afraid [0:23:44–0:24:52]
- Joe’s message: “Don’t be afraid” in the face of mortality.
- Recognizing both the spiritual hope and the relief of being free from pain.
- From Recipient to Contributor [0:24:52–0:25:58]
- Even when receiving care (like hospice), you can still give back—through words, presence, and blessings.
- Letting Others Hold You Up [0:25:58–0:27:31]
- The powerful image of Joe being physically held up by his pastor and daughter while giving the benediction.
- The reminder that asking for and accepting help can be an act of strength, not weakness.
- Finishing Strong & Living on Your Terms [0:27:02–0:29:57]
- Joe’s final chapter as a climax, not an epilogue.
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