What No One Tells You About Divorce (But We Will) - 8 Pieces of Crucial Information You Need to Know

What No One Tells You About Divorce (But We Will) - 8 Pieces of Crucial Information You Need to Know

Author: Anne-Marie Zanzal 1ac1f670-c17c-11f0-806a-ef1502adef07 July 25, 2025 Duration: 44:37

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This week on Coming Out & Beyond: LGBTQIA+ Stories, host Anne-Marie Zanzal welcomes back her fellow coach Barbara Rowlandson to the podcast for a conversation about things they wish they understood before embarking on a divorce journey. Anne-Marie and Barb cover some of their biggest missteps and common negative and usually-untrue beliefs that many women hold about the divorce experience. Anne-Marie and Barb reflect and share advice with compassion, encouraging curiosity, and share a few laughs throughout this very informative and engaging episode. While Anne-Marie and Barb both identify as lesbians and are speaking from their experiences in divorcing their ex-husbands, this episode is relevant for any woman, queer or straight, divorcing a person of any gender.

❓ What to Expect in This Episode:

🌈Conversation about getting the facts from professionals before making decisions.

🌈Encouragement to slow down and go through the process thoughtfully.

🌈Advice about taking time through the process for self-discovery and healing.

🌈Emphasis on why community and professional support is key to navigating separation and divorce in the best way possible.

 Why This Matters:

The decision to leave your marriage is one that may be fraught with anxiety, guilt, and shame. It takes time and deliberation to reframe our thinking and unlearn messages about what it means to be a good woman, wife and mom. Learning to prioritize ourselves may feel hard, but that's because it is unfamiliar, not because it is not worth doing.


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Are you thinking about separating from your spouse? What are your biggest concerns? Let's talk about them in the comments.

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