Conflicting money perspectives about giving

Conflicting money perspectives about giving

Author: Jane Beddall April 2, 2026 Duration: 4:54

We can have very different views about 

charitable giving and that can lead to conflict.

Magic, easy answers will be elusive. But a few reminders can help. Know your own priorities and values and be true to them.

      First, don’t be the passionate supporter who becomes the pushy one. If you are on the receiving end of the pushiness, you can decline politely – and completely. Or you can choose to give a more modest amount; in some situations –especially alumni giving – the percentage of eligible donors who contribute is important.

      If the cause is one you don’t want to support at all because you just aren’t onboard, you can keep the lines of communication open. Perhaps you will learn more about the issue or group and reconsider.

      If you find the cause to be in conflict with your values, you can choose to state that. You can choose simply not engage. Or you can think about other options. 

Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/.

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