347: Men’s work isn’t enough. You’ve also got to have this. (ft. Luke Adler)

347: Men’s work isn’t enough. You’ve also got to have this. (ft. Luke Adler)

Author: Melanie Curtin February 7, 2025 Duration: 58:04

Have you ever felt unworthy, less than, or "deeply ugly and stupid," as my guest this week put it?

The fact is, we need all the support we can get. We need it from our fellow humans, and we need it from something greater.

The word "God" can be very triggering -- for those who experienced religious trauma growing up (which, let's face it, is literally billions of people), it can be a dirty word.

Yet the concept of Life -- aka Divine Intelligence, the Field, Spirit, etc. -- can be extraordinarily transformative when it comes to our everyday lives, and how we experience love itself.

What is your relationship to Life, nature, the interconnected web? Do you feel held by something greater? How does this relate to your experience with sex, dating, and relationships? And what's really behind our patterns and how to we grow beyond them?

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

  • "I thought I was deeply ugly, and stupid."
  • "In the opening, something is allowed to arise through."
  • "Something more important than my pain took centerstage."
  • "You don’t have to ‘do’ the miracle; you just have to be open to the miracle."
  • "Let nature move in between the relationship."
  • "Make way for the mystery."

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Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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