349: Interested in plant medicine but don’t want to do “drugs”? Try this. (ft. Luke Adler)

349: Interested in plant medicine but don’t want to do “drugs”? Try this. (ft. Luke Adler)

Author: Melanie Curtin February 21, 2025 Duration: 57:47

Most of us, on our growth journeys, become aware that we need to heal from some kind of trauma. We also often discover that we need more than talk therapy.

Altered states have been used since time immemorial to help us on our healing paths, and can be particularly helpful in trauma healing. And while plant medicine (ayahuasca, psilocybin (magic mushrooms), MDMA, psychedelics like wachuma/peyote) can be a strong ally, it also has certain drawbacks and limitations.

Fortunately there's another way to get into altered states that requires no substances: Breathwork.

Here we outline the differences between plant medicine and breathwork. We also discuss how breathwork can help folks heal from attachment wounding (anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, or disorganized attachment, which is a mix of both).

And we talk about the bodymind's inherent knowledge of how to heal. Breathwork can help us unlock our own deeper wisdom.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

  • "The next stage of evolution is self-inquiry."
  • "Consciousness expands in such a way that says, ‘I need help.'"
  • "I have this deep desire to expand."
  • "Beneath that knot of unworthiness is ultimate consciousness."
  • "The core intention is to open the heart, and to heal."

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Mentioned on this episode:

  • Book: Conscious Breathing: How Shamanic Breathwork Can Transform Your Life by Joy Manné
  • Breathwork Breakthrough (advanced course led by me and Luke, starting mid-March. Email dearmenpodcast@gmail.com for more info)

Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
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