359: GuyTalk: Ever felt stuck?

359: GuyTalk: Ever felt stuck?

Author: Melanie Curtin May 2, 2025 Duration: 1:44:27

Have you ever just felt STUCK? Stuck in your dating life, stuck in your marriage, stuck in your sex life (or stuck in your sex life within your marriage)? As one man on our panel put it, "I felt stuck for most of the 20 years of my marriage."

Maybe you've felt trapped -- like you just couldn't work your way out of wherever you were.

Here, four men get real about their journey going from totally stuck to in flow.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

  • "Women are starving for men who are doing the work."
  • "I felt broken; I felt unworthy; I felt unacceptable; I felt unwanted."
  • "Sex felt unrealistic and out of reach, and it also felt off-limits."
  • "I lived in the regret of the past and the fear of the future (and I was never present)."
  • "I felt like I wasn’t desired — I wasn’t wanted."
  • "I got to the point where I just felt like I’d plateaued in therapy; it felt like we weren’t getting anywhere."
  • "'Am I acting OK? Am I making them feel OK?'"
  • "I had to WANT to get un-stuck."
  • "I had to decide: Do you want to stay here? Or do you want to do something different?"
  • "I didn’t allow myself any space of, 'What do I want?'"
  • "I had a huge block with paying money for personal growth; I’d pay money for my hobbies, etc., but not that."
  • "It’s unrealistic that I would know everything; having that humility and curiosity to reach out was critical."
  • "I did the fuckin’ work, and I was ready to do it, and I threw down."
  • "The problem wasn’t that I was unattractive; the problem was that I wasn’t embodied (and didn’t have my head up!)."
  • "This is happening to me for a reason. It’s happening because I can handle it, so let’s embrace it."
  • "My confidence and my ability to do life differently grew in all kinds of magical, nourishing, evolved ways."
  • "Now I feel unchained — I feel liberated from the slavery of stuckness."
  • "Trusting the intelligence of my body, and then moving forward from that is transformational in every aspect of life."
  • "This is not where my story ends."
  • "Some of your best friends are yet to be made."

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Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
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