375: What does it mean to 'be in your masculine'? (ft. Jason Lange)

375: What does it mean to 'be in your masculine'? (ft. Jason Lange)

Author: Melanie Curtin August 22, 2025 Duration: 1:05:26

“I knew it was something I wanted to be in because I thought it’d get me chicks.”

So begins Jason in describing his journey around learning to be "in his masculine" and "in his feminine." These are terms related to polarity that get thrown around a lot, and we wanted to break down what we're referring to in more depth.

What does it mean to be dominating versus assertive? Is it ever helpful to be passive? How does healthy polarity impact a marriage -- and especially one's sex life? Can you re-polarize a love relationship that feels "off" or isn't working in some way (sexually or otherwise)? Where does being in the masculine intersect with trust?

Listen to find out.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

  • “I like to think I’m super ‘in my masculine’ but a lot of times I’m just in my head.”
  • “I was waiting, which meant she was being put in the lead.”
  • “The friction points in my marriage are when she has to track something (and doesn’t feel like I’m tracking it).”
  • “A lot of us Nice Guys shy away from this because we don’t want to be dominating.”
  • “I have to read her body, but I also have to direct.”
  • “This is masterful; I’m just going to let go completely for the ride.”
  • “The willingness to get it wrong is part of what makes it meaningful.”
  • “Good leadership always involves listening.”
  • “I literally just needed to do the thing I wanted to do.”

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Mentioned on this episode:

  • DM episode 181: What exactly is polarity? We break it down.
  • DM episode 103: Reverse polarity can kill your sex life as a couple -- unless you do this.
  • DM episode 277: Want to maximize polarity? Learn to do this well.

Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
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