384: What's the impact of circumcision on a man? (ft. Michael Smith, Intactivist Educator)

384: What's the impact of circumcision on a man? (ft. Michael Smith, Intactivist Educator)

Author: Melanie Curtin October 24, 2025 Duration: 1:08:13

In North America, we tend to think of circumcision as "normal" and "widespread." But did you know that circumcision as a practice only became widespread in the US in the mid 1900s?

So what's the deal? Why did it originate as a practice and why has it persisted? And perhaps most importantly, what is the impact on a man -- both physiologically as well as psychologically?

The answers may surprise you -- I know they did me. I was unaware, for example, of the extent to which intact foreskin helps a man with sexual pleasure. I also didn't realize that foreskin restoration is a thing -- that if you've been circumcised, there's actually a way to re-grow foreskin.

There's a lot of intensity and sensitivity around this subject, and for good reason: It matters deeply. If you yourself are circumcised, you have loved ones who are, and especially if you're a parent-to-be, please listen. It's important.

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Memorable quotes:

  • “Much of the history is murky.”
  • “I acutely felt the feeling of being different.”
  • “Dollars per hour, circumcision is the most lucrative thing a doctor can do.”
  • “Circumcision is estimated to be a $5B/year industry in the US.”
  • “Men don’t like to feel like victims.”
  • “Most responses are silence.”
  • “There’s an unconscious desire to control the sexuality of children.”
  • “‘OK, something really bad happened to me.’”
  • “It ends with me.”
  • "This can be a story of resilience and triumph."

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Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
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