Globally, hundreds of millions of men contend with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and delayed ejaculation. One 2021 US national survey found an overall ED prevalence rate in men of around 24% — that’s nearly one in four.

But even in men’s work spaces (men’s groups, retreats, etc.), one rarely hears these topics discussed. Why?

In a word: shame.

Here, Luke and I debrief our recent course, Sexual Mastery, and what patterns we saw in terms of what it actually takes to heal sexual dysfunction — from ED to delayed ejaculation — in a lasting way.

Spoiler: it's not just a pill or a breathing technique. And it's definitely not about drilling your dick into submission.

We also touch on an unexpected edge that several men had to lean into in order to start having the sex lives they've always wanted, and how your unprocessed grief about your father — yes, really — might have everything to do with your erection.

If you've ever felt like something's off but couldn't name it — or, when it comes to your penis, like you've tried the "logical" fixes and they haven't worked — this one's for you.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• "You can't drill the dick into obeying. It requires care."
• “Shame is one of the most uncomfortable sensations in the body.”
• “We were going to have to traverse the shadowland.”
• "What is more insulting to a man, with all of that conditioning, than not being able to have control of your penis? Fuck, if that is not painful."
• “As one man took the leap … it was an irresistible magnet to pull the next man in.”
• "I remember thinking: this man's whole life is different now. He cannot go back to the way that things were."
• “It was probably the most transformative, creative artistic experience I’ve ever been a part of.”
• "All an emotion is, is cellular vitality and blood flow. At a physical level. At a spiritual level, it's a raw sense of aliveness — your essence vibrating through you."