Ep. 197 | The Lies We Tell Ourselves That Keep Us Stuck w/ Matt Ware

Ep. 197 | The Lies We Tell Ourselves That Keep Us Stuck w/ Matt Ware

Author: Lora Thorson, Defenders USA August 27, 2026 Duration: 1:02:11

What if the biggest thing keeping you stuck is a lie you don’t even realize you’re telling yourself?

“I just need to get motivated.”

“I’m waiting for the right time.”

“I really want it.”

“I’m just being nice.”

Sometimes those things are true. And sometimes they’re the stories we tell ourselves because the truth requires us to do something uncomfortable.

In this episode, leadership coach Matt Ware and I get straight to the heart of it.

We talk about:

Why motivation may not be what you’re actually missingHow being “nice” can become a way of avoiding hard truthsWhy wanting something isn’t the same as being willing to work for itHow past failures AND past successes can keep you stuckWhy honesty and personal responsibility are essential for real growthWhat it means to stop waiting and play the shot that’s in front of you

At the heart of this conversation is something every defender needs: the courage to tell yourself the truth, take responsibility for what is yours, and act on the shot that’s in front of you.

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In this episode of Defenders LIVE, I sit down with leadership coach Matt Ware for a candid conversation about the lies we can tell ourselves without even realizing it, and how those beliefs can quietly keep us stuck. We talk about the tension between waiting and taking action, why motivation isn’t something you can rely on, and the difference between saying you want something and being willing to change your behavior to get it.

We also dig into the cost of being “nice” when honesty is required, why keeping promises to yourself matters, and how both past failures AND past successes can keep you from moving forward. Matt challenges us to look honestly at what we’re holding onto, what we’re avoiding, and whether the life we’re living actually lines up with the life we say we want.

Watch Ep. 197 of Defenders LIVE with Matt Ware at Defenders-LIVE.com.

More about Matt at www.themattware.com.

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Hosted by Lora Thorson of Defenders USA, the Defenders LIVE Podcast moves beyond simple technique to explore the broader, often unspoken aspects of personal defense. This isn't just about what happens on the range; it's about cultivating the mindset, awareness, and practical wisdom you carry into everyday life. Each conversation is grounded in real-world experience, offering tangible insights that bridge the gap between theoretical knowledge and lived application. You'll hear discussions that delve into situational preparedness, legal considerations, and the psychological resilience required to navigate complex scenarios. The aim is to foster a more competent and thoughtful approach to self-reliance, making this podcast a resource for anyone committed to responsible defense. By integrating education with personal growth, these episodes provide a space for listeners to reflect on their own journey and develop a more holistic understanding of what it means to be prepared. Tune in for honest dialogue that empowers you to think critically and act responsibly, strengthening your confidence both in skill and in character.
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