49. Desire: Is Wanting Inherently Bad?

49. Desire: Is Wanting Inherently Bad?

Author: Eldar, Katherine, Mike, Toliy December 23, 2022 Duration: 1:29:32

Does the mere act of wanting something start a countdown to your own unhappiness?

In this episode, the crew prepares to "get out of the philosophy bubble" and back into the laboratory of real life. We explore the high cost of desire and why Eldar believes that the moment you want something, you start a "timer of suffering." From Toliy’s journey of developing a new character beyond the "lab" to Mike’s call to "saddle the horse" and take control of a life running amok, we dive into what it means to live an examined life. We revisit the myth-busting truth about self-love and discipline, challenging the generations of "nonsense" that have kept us from pursuing what we actually care about at 40, 50, or 60.

The Most Insightful Moment:

"I think that as soon as you want something, even without saying it out loud, just having the thought of wanting it, you start a timer of suffering." — Eldar

Key Takeaways:

  • The Suffering Timer: A deep dive into how expectation and wanting create an immediate state of lack that persists until the goal is reached—or abandoned.
  • Character Development: Toliy discusses the necessity of evolving your "character" and finding interests outside of your primary work to avoid burnout.
  • The Examined Life: Mike argues for the necessity of self-reflection, even when you aren't "hitting a thousand" in terms of success.
  • Reinventing Self-Love: Why the crew is on a mission to dispel the myths of the past and redefine self-love as something more than just "discipline".
  • Late-Bloom Pursuits: Exploring the courage it takes to say "fuck the career" and start something entirely new in the later chapters of life.

Are you ready to stop the timer of suffering and start living a life that’s actually yours? Subscribe now as we dispel the myths and saddle up for the next chapter.

Mike declares that "enough is enough" and that the crew is about to "reinvent all this nonsense" the world has forced on them. But as they prepare to exit the "philosophy bubble," a final question remains: where exactly is Mike going, and are the listeners ready to follow him into the unknown?

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