Confessions of a Midlife Self-Saboteur

Confessions of a Midlife Self-Saboteur

Author: Gloria Grace Rand - Conscious Midlife Strategy Expert June 16, 2026 Duration: 35:22
Started strong, then quietly stopped and judged yourself for it? You're not alone. In this episode, I confess my status as a midlife self-saboteur when it comes to food and my business - and the fear of success hiding underneath it all. Plus, you'll hear about five simple tools I'm employing to help myself and other self-saboteurs get off the hamster wheel, one day at a time. If you've ever set a goal with the best of intentions, made real progress, and then watched yourself quietly slide back into old patterns, this episode is for you. We'll talk about why self-sabotage after 50 often isn't a willpower problem at all. Sometimes it's fear of failure. Or fear of success. Together, we'll move through the emotions that come with this kind of honesty: frustration, shame, relief, and ultimately hope. I'll walk you through the tools I'm using right now to interrupt the cycle and close with a light language transmission to help release whatever might be keeping you stuck. Wherever you are in your own cycle of starting and stopping, I hope this conversation reminds you of something important: you've done this before, and you can do it again. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why self-sabotage often shows up as a fear of success, not a fear of failure — and what to do when you notice it A simple 5-minute pause practice (I use the Triple Flame app) to interrupt emotional eating or procrastination before it takes over How to use curious, non-judgmental journaling to uncover what's really driving a behavior you want to change A mirror affirmation practice to remind yourself: you've succeeded before, and you can succeed again Why “one day at a time” might be the simplest and most powerful tool for breaking any cycle — in your health, your business, or your life Resources & links mentioned: Triple Flame app (created by the team behind The Gene Keys) — used for guided 3/5/10-minute pause practices Soulful Women's Network — free Facebook community: bit.ly/soulnetwork Related podcast episode - Midlife Habits that Stick: Start Small, Stay Consistent Design Your Life, Your Way – next steps: Book a 1:1 Light Language session: bit.ly/LLEpodcast30 If this episode spoke to you, leave us a review. Follow/subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode. Share this conversation with a woman over 50 who might recognize herself in this cycle of starting and stopping Connect with me on LinkedIn @GloriaGraceRand to continue the conversation about midlife, self-sabotage, and choosing yourself again. Before you click away, take one breath, place a hand on your heart, and ask: What is one small, loving choice I can make right now instead of the one I've been making on autopilot?

For professional women who’ve reached a certain point and are asking, “What’s next?” there’s Design Your Life, Your Way. This isn’t about slowing down; it’s about intentionally building what comes after a successful career or a life spent raising others. Your host, Gloria Grace Rand, acts as a Midlife Empowerment Guide, drawing from her own journey and conversations with a diverse range of experts. Episodes move beyond vague inspiration to offer tangible strategies. You’ll hear discussions on launching a passion-driven business, redefining personal health and fitness after fifty, and navigating the psychological shifts that come with this liberating chapter. The core idea is that this time is ripe for reinvention, not retreat. Gloria and her guests provide the practical tools and candid perspectives needed to reclaim your sense of purpose and design a life that feels authentically yours. It’s a resource for women ready to move from automatic living to intentional choice, covering everything from entrepreneurial mindset and financial shifts to holistic wellness and personal growth. Tune in for a blend of solo reflections and insightful interviews, all aimed at empowering you to edit the next pages of your story with confidence and clarity. This podcast meets you exactly where you are-with plenty of experience behind you-and helps chart a purposeful path forward.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 50

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