451. Charisma is learnt and how to master it.

451. Charisma is learnt and how to master it.

Author: Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa - Neuroscientist and Mindset Coach October 26, 2025 Duration: 34:49

In this episode, I talk about the neuroscience behind charisma, what makes someone magnetic, why it’s more about connection than confidence and how to build it (no matter your personality type). Whether you’re introverted, extroverted, or somewhere in between, charisma isn’t about being the loudest in the room. It’s about emotional attunement, presence and connection. I unpack the neuroscience behind why charismatic people light up our brains, the everyday habits that make you magnetic and how to lean into your own version of charisma.

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Hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa, Do You F*cking Mind? delivers practical, science-backed mindset tools for anyone looking to cut through internal clutter and build a more resilient, self-directed life. This isn't abstract theory; it's applied neuroscience and psychology for your real-world problems. Each Monday, Alexis releases an in-depth episode exploring a single theme, dissecting topics like the mechanics of habit formation, navigating complex friendships, processing heartbreak, or cultivating a genuinely carefree approach to daily pressures. The focus is on actionable strategies, explaining not just what to do but how the brain works to make those changes stick. Then, every Friday, the format shifts to "Head Noise," a dedicated Q&A session where Alexis directly tackles listener-submitted questions, offering personalized insights and clarifications. The tone is direct, unapologetically candid, and free of fluff, mirroring the podcast's title. It’s a blend of rigorous science and street-smart wisdom, all aimed at empowering you to audit your own thoughts and behaviors. For those ready to move past passive listening and into active self-improvement, this podcast serves as a weekly mental toolkit. Listeners are encouraged to engage by sending their own questions for the Friday episodes.
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