How to help someone out of a coercive controlling relationship

How to help someone out of a coercive controlling relationship

Author: Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa - Neuroscientist and Mindset Coach July 30, 2026 Duration: 32:27

In this head noise episode, I respond to a listeners question around coercive control and I go further in depth, covering the complex and often subtle signs of coercive control in relationships, and offers guidance on how to support loved ones who may be experiencing it. Coercive control is a form of psychological abuse that can be just as damaging as physical violence, and it's essential to recognise the signs and take action.

I share advice on how to approach conversations with loved ones who may be experiencing coercive control, including how to bring up the topic gently and avoid being judgmental or accusatory. This is focused on providing them with opportunities to regain their independence and autonomy.

If you or someone you know is experiencing coercive control, this episode is a must-listen.  By listening to this episode, you'll gain a deeper understanding of coercive control and learn how to support those affected by it.

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Hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa, Do You F*cking Mind? delivers practical, science-backed mindset tools for anyone looking to cut through internal clutter and build a more resilient, self-directed life. This isn't abstract theory; it's applied neuroscience and psychology for your real-world problems. Each Monday, Alexis releases an in-depth episode exploring a single theme, dissecting topics like the mechanics of habit formation, navigating complex friendships, processing heartbreak, or cultivating a genuinely carefree approach to daily pressures. The focus is on actionable strategies, explaining not just what to do but how the brain works to make those changes stick. Then, every Friday, the format shifts to "Head Noise," a dedicated Q&A session where Alexis directly tackles listener-submitted questions, offering personalized insights and clarifications. The tone is direct, unapologetically candid, and free of fluff, mirroring the podcast's title. It’s a blend of rigorous science and street-smart wisdom, all aimed at empowering you to audit your own thoughts and behaviors. For those ready to move past passive listening and into active self-improvement, this podcast serves as a weekly mental toolkit. Listeners are encouraged to engage by sending their own questions for the Friday episodes.
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