How to not let people use your insecurities against you, and finally become comfortable in your own skin

How to not let people use your insecurities against you, and finally become comfortable in your own skin

Author: Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa - Neuroscientist and Mindset Coach May 18, 2026 Duration: 58:02

Ahhhh Insecurities. I feel like they are used against us in all areas of life. 
Advertising, social media, internet trolls, trends, unhealthy relationships and even well meaning friends and family! 

this ep uncovers what insecurities actually are, the common behaviors to look out for in yourself, and how to learn to live with, embrace or change (in a healthy way) the things that you are insecure about so they no longer control you and how you move forward in life. 

Secure people are not those with zero 'flaws' or things that they don't love, they are people that despite these 'things' are able to love who they are and be comfortable with that. and when that happens, no one can use your insecurities against you. 

Brain Fact - Fen Phen and why it got discontinued. 

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Hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa, Do You F*cking Mind? delivers practical, science-backed mindset tools for anyone looking to cut through internal clutter and build a more resilient, self-directed life. This isn't abstract theory; it's applied neuroscience and psychology for your real-world problems. Each Monday, Alexis releases an in-depth episode exploring a single theme, dissecting topics like the mechanics of habit formation, navigating complex friendships, processing heartbreak, or cultivating a genuinely carefree approach to daily pressures. The focus is on actionable strategies, explaining not just what to do but how the brain works to make those changes stick. Then, every Friday, the format shifts to "Head Noise," a dedicated Q&A session where Alexis directly tackles listener-submitted questions, offering personalized insights and clarifications. The tone is direct, unapologetically candid, and free of fluff, mirroring the podcast's title. It’s a blend of rigorous science and street-smart wisdom, all aimed at empowering you to audit your own thoughts and behaviors. For those ready to move past passive listening and into active self-improvement, this podcast serves as a weekly mental toolkit. Listeners are encouraged to engage by sending their own questions for the Friday episodes.
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