Miserable People - How to stop making negativity your personality

Miserable People - How to stop making negativity your personality

Author: Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa - Neuroscientist and Mindset Coach June 29, 2026 Duration: 35:12

In this episode, I delve into the world of miserable people and how they can be a drain on our lives. We've all met that someone who seems to thrive on negativity, always finding fault in others and themselves, and making us feel like we're stuck in a never-ending cycle of misery. But what drives these people to be so consumed by negativity, and how can we deal with them?

I talk about the concept of misery as a choice, rather than a condition, and how it can be an addictive behavior that people fall into. You will also learn about the concept of "misery loves company" and how it can be a major driver of this behavior.

I also give you key points on how to deal with miserable people, including stopping making negativity your personality, practicing gratitude, and being careful what you rehearse. By the end of the episode, you'll have a better understanding of what drives miserable people and how to navigate these relationships.

If you're tired of being drained by someone else's negativity, or if you're a miserable person looking to make a change, this episode will help! Tune in to learn how to break the cycle of misery and start living a more positive, fulfilling life.

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Hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa, Do You F*cking Mind? delivers practical, science-backed mindset tools for anyone looking to cut through internal clutter and build a more resilient, self-directed life. This isn't abstract theory; it's applied neuroscience and psychology for your real-world problems. Each Monday, Alexis releases an in-depth episode exploring a single theme, dissecting topics like the mechanics of habit formation, navigating complex friendships, processing heartbreak, or cultivating a genuinely carefree approach to daily pressures. The focus is on actionable strategies, explaining not just what to do but how the brain works to make those changes stick. Then, every Friday, the format shifts to "Head Noise," a dedicated Q&A session where Alexis directly tackles listener-submitted questions, offering personalized insights and clarifications. The tone is direct, unapologetically candid, and free of fluff, mirroring the podcast's title. It’s a blend of rigorous science and street-smart wisdom, all aimed at empowering you to audit your own thoughts and behaviors. For those ready to move past passive listening and into active self-improvement, this podcast serves as a weekly mental toolkit. Listeners are encouraged to engage by sending their own questions for the Friday episodes.
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