The Reset You Actually Need - Day 6. How to stop feeling disappointed and regain control over your life

The Reset You Actually Need - Day 6. How to stop feeling disappointed and regain control over your life

Author: Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa - Neuroscientist and Mindset Coach January 18, 2026 Duration: 21:58

The Reset You Actually Need

Feeling constantly disappointed in people, in situations, or in yourself is exhausting.

In this episode of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack why disappointment is rarely about bad luck, and more often about repeating the same patterns, ignoring behaviour, and abandoning your own boundaries often without realising it.

This episode explores:

  • Why disappointment is often self-created (and how to stop doing that)

  • How repeating the same goals or relationships erodes self-trust

  • Why listening to words instead of behaviour keeps you stuck

  • The psychology of repeated rejection and loss of control

  • How taking responsibility restores agency (without self-blame)

  • Why self-respect is the fastest way back to emotional stability

This isn’t about becoming cynical or emotionally closed off.
It’s about regaining control by changing what you tolerate, repeat, and negotiate with.

If you’re tired of feeling let down, drained, or stuck in cycles that keep hurting you, this episode will help you reset your expectations, rebuild self-trust, and move forward with clarity.

Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, raise your standards, and step into the year with calm self-leadership.


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Hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa, Do You F*cking Mind? delivers practical, science-backed mindset tools for anyone looking to cut through internal clutter and build a more resilient, self-directed life. This isn't abstract theory; it's applied neuroscience and psychology for your real-world problems. Each Monday, Alexis releases an in-depth episode exploring a single theme, dissecting topics like the mechanics of habit formation, navigating complex friendships, processing heartbreak, or cultivating a genuinely carefree approach to daily pressures. The focus is on actionable strategies, explaining not just what to do but how the brain works to make those changes stick. Then, every Friday, the format shifts to "Head Noise," a dedicated Q&A session where Alexis directly tackles listener-submitted questions, offering personalized insights and clarifications. The tone is direct, unapologetically candid, and free of fluff, mirroring the podcast's title. It’s a blend of rigorous science and street-smart wisdom, all aimed at empowering you to audit your own thoughts and behaviors. For those ready to move past passive listening and into active self-improvement, this podcast serves as a weekly mental toolkit. Listeners are encouraged to engage by sending their own questions for the Friday episodes.
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