The Reset You Actually Need - Day 7. More self trust - stop negotiating with your own excuses

The Reset You Actually Need - Day 7. More self trust - stop negotiating with your own excuses

Author: Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa - Neuroscientist and Mindset Coach January 19, 2026 Duration: 21:48

Self-trust doesn’t disappear because you fail.

It erodes because you keep negotiating with yourself and breaking the deal.

In Day 7 of The Reset You Actually Need, we talk about why so many people struggle to trust themselves, even when they’re capable, intelligent, and motivated, and how constant internal negotiation quietly destroys confidence.

This mini episode explores:

  • Why every excuse sounds reasonable in your own voice

  • The difference between a valid reason and a repeated pattern

  • How negotiating with yourself teaches your brain that your word is flexible

  • Why discipline isn’t harsh, it’s relieving and freeing

  • The balance between self-compassion and accountability

  • Why small promises matter more than big goals

Self-trust isn’t built through motivation, grit, or hype.
It’s built through follow-through.

When you stop arguing with yourself, life gets simpler.
Decisions feel lighter.
Confidence starts to return naturally.

This episode is about becoming someone who does what they say, without punishment, drama, or burnout.

Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with clarity and calm self-leadership.

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Hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa, Do You F*cking Mind? delivers practical, science-backed mindset tools for anyone looking to cut through internal clutter and build a more resilient, self-directed life. This isn't abstract theory; it's applied neuroscience and psychology for your real-world problems. Each Monday, Alexis releases an in-depth episode exploring a single theme, dissecting topics like the mechanics of habit formation, navigating complex friendships, processing heartbreak, or cultivating a genuinely carefree approach to daily pressures. The focus is on actionable strategies, explaining not just what to do but how the brain works to make those changes stick. Then, every Friday, the format shifts to "Head Noise," a dedicated Q&A session where Alexis directly tackles listener-submitted questions, offering personalized insights and clarifications. The tone is direct, unapologetically candid, and free of fluff, mirroring the podcast's title. It’s a blend of rigorous science and street-smart wisdom, all aimed at empowering you to audit your own thoughts and behaviors. For those ready to move past passive listening and into active self-improvement, this podcast serves as a weekly mental toolkit. Listeners are encouraged to engage by sending their own questions for the Friday episodes.
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