The "Kids These Days!" Effect

The "Kids These Days!" Effect

Author: Dr Justin Coulson November 12, 2025 Duration: 16:02

Every generation believes “kids these days” are going downhill — ruder, lazier, less capable. But new research says we’ve been wrong for over 2,000 years. In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Justin and Kylie unpack why we keep blaming young people, the psychology behind the “decline” myth, and how it’s hurting our kids more than helping.

This one will make you rethink how you see today’s youth — and maybe even yourself.

KEY POINTS

  • Why every generation thinks the next one is “worse” — and why they’re wrong
  • The two psychological traps that make adults unfairly judge kids
  • How nostalgia and selective memory distort our view of the past
  • What the data actually says about modern kids (it’s not what you think)
  • Why criticising “kids these days” says more about adults than children
  • How negative stereotypes harm young people — and how to stop it

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“The complaints reveal more about us than about the kids.” — Dr Justin Coulson

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

  1. Catch your nostalgia: When you find yourself saying “back in my day,” pause and question it.
  2. Look for strengths: Notice what today’s young people are doing right — and tell them.
  3. Model respect: Show the behaviour you want to see, across all generations.
  4. Stay curious: Ask your kids what the world looks like from their eyes.

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Finding a clear path through the chaos of family life can feel overwhelming. Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families steps into that space with grounded, relatable conversations. Hosted by parenting expert Dr. Justin Coulson and his wife Kylie, this podcast feels like a honest chat with friends who truly understand the daily grind. Together, they draw from their own life raising six daughters, offering a common-sense perspective that resonates with parents everywhere. The discussions move beyond theory, focusing on practical strategies you can apply immediately to navigate common challenges and strengthen your relationships at home. Each episode aims to cut through the noise of conflicting advice, providing thoughtful insights that address real-world situations with empathy and evidence-based wisdom. Tuning into this podcast is like finding a moment of calm reflection in a busy week, a resource for building a more connected and joyful family culture. It’s a place where the complexities of parenting, culture, and society are explored through the lens of everyday experience, making the journey feel a little less solitary and a lot more manageable.
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