The Truth About Men, Emotions, and Silence (with Craig Russouw)

The Truth About Men, Emotions, and Silence (with Craig Russouw)

Author: Dr Justin Coulson March 31, 2026 Duration: 18:08

He’s snapping, shutting down, or pulling away… but what if it’s not anger at all?

In this powerful conversation, psychologist Craig Russouw unpacks what’s really going on beneath the surface for so many men and boys — and why most never ask for help until it’s too late.

From hidden signs of depression to the quiet crisis facing Aussie men, this episode will shift how you see behaviour, masculinity, and mental health — and give you practical ways to support the men and boys in your life.

KEY POINTS

  • Why men’s mental health struggles often show up as anger, irritability, or withdrawal
  • The alarming gap between men experiencing issues and those actually seeking help
  • How outdated ideas of masculinity keep men silent
  • What “mental health literacy” is — and why many men don’t have it
  • The concept of “mental maintenance” (and why prevention matters more than crisis care)
  • Simple, practical habits that protect mental wellbeing
  • Why connection for men often looks different — and how to support it

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Anger is often just the surface. Underneath, there’s anxiety, sadness, or something much deeper.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

  • Mental Maintenance Manual (free guide for men’s mental health)
  • Someone Health (telehealth psychology service across Australia)

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

  • Look beyond behaviour — ask what might be underneath anger or withdrawal
  • Normalise conversations about emotions early, especially with boys
  • Encourage regular “mental maintenance,” not just crisis support
  • Help boys identify feelings (not just react to them)
  • Prioritise sleep, connection, and enjoyable activities as non-negotiables
  • Model vulnerability — show that talking is strength, not weakness

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Finding a clear path through the chaos of family life can feel overwhelming. Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families steps into that space with grounded, relatable conversations. Hosted by parenting expert Dr. Justin Coulson and his wife Kylie, this podcast feels like a honest chat with friends who truly understand the daily grind. Together, they draw from their own life raising six daughters, offering a common-sense perspective that resonates with parents everywhere. The discussions move beyond theory, focusing on practical strategies you can apply immediately to navigate common challenges and strengthen your relationships at home. Each episode aims to cut through the noise of conflicting advice, providing thoughtful insights that address real-world situations with empathy and evidence-based wisdom. Tuning into this podcast is like finding a moment of calm reflection in a busy week, a resource for building a more connected and joyful family culture. It’s a place where the complexities of parenting, culture, and society are explored through the lens of everyday experience, making the journey feel a little less solitary and a lot more manageable.
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