The Ego's Version of Love

The Ego's Version of Love

Author: Circle of Atonement October 6, 2025 Duration: 54:40

Why do so many relationships that begin with such promise end in conflict, disconnection, or despair? In this episode of Exploring A Course in Miracles, Robert and Emily Perry look at the ego's version of love—a love rooted in self-focus rather than true joining.

Inspired by David Brooks' New York Times article, "The Wrong Definition of Love," Emily and Robert unpack how our culture's shift from shared moral and spiritual frameworks to individualistic, therapeutic ones has shaped our understanding of love. What happens when self-love and self-expression replace devotion, service, and shared purpose? And what can the Course teach us about returning to love as the cure for our self-centeredness and division? 

In this conversation, Robert and Emily explore:

  • How our culture's definition of love became centered on the self 

  • What A Course in Miracles says about love vs. the ego's imitation of love 

  • Why the decline of shared values has left us fragmented and isolated 

  • How real love "de-centers" the self and joins us in something larger

This is a profound and timely discussion about rediscovering love as a path out of our collective disconnection.

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Hosted by Robert and Emily Perry of the Circle of Atonement, Exploring A Course in Miracles is a series of thoughtful dialogues that delve into the practical philosophy and spiritual framework of A Course in Miracles. Each episode feels like sitting in on a genuine conversation, where complex ideas are unpacked with clarity and personal insight. You’ll hear discussions that go beyond surface-level interpretation, addressing common questions, subtle nuances, and the real-world application of Course principles. The Perrys bring a depth of understanding from their decades of work, creating a space where both new students and long-time practitioners can find fresh perspectives. This podcast serves as an auditory companion for anyone on this particular path, emphasizing a gentle approach to forgiveness and inner peace. Tuning in regularly provides a sense of continuity and deepening reflection, making the teachings feel accessible and relevant to daily life. The Circle of Atonement, through this audio series and its other resources, supports a journey toward a transformed perception, one conversation at a time.
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