The Internalized Male Gaze and Self-Objectification

The Internalized Male Gaze and Self-Objectification

Author: Hecate December 16, 2025 Duration: 33:09
Join Hecate in this episode of 'Finding OK,' a healing podcast for survivors of SA and abuse, as they delve into the concept of "the male gaze", how it's internalized, its role in objectification, and its intersection with sexual healing post-trauma. Inspired by Margaret Atwood's poem from 'The Robber Bride', Hecate explores how societal beauty standards and the male gaze have influenced their self-perception, sexuality, and share reflections on their journey toward authentic pleasure and int...

Hosted by Hecate, Finding OK-Healing After Sexual Assault and Abuse is a space built on the understanding that sharing stories is an act of collective strength. This podcast moves through the complex, non-linear terrain of recovery with a focus that is both intersectional and deeply personal. Conversations here are grounded in real experiences, exploring what recovery, self-care, and empowerment can look like when forged from a place of trauma. You'll hear from survivors and experts alike, discussing practical strategies for navigating daily life, the nuances of mental and physical wellness, and the cultural contexts that shape our healing journeys. It’s not about reaching a fictional finish line, but rather about mapping a path toward a different kind of okay. Each episode acknowledges the weight of the experience while making room for hope and resilience, reinforcing that no one has to walk this road in isolation. Tune in for a candid, compassionate resource that meets you where you are.
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