Ep. 797: The Cost of Always Putting Yourself Last

Ep. 797: The Cost of Always Putting Yourself Last

Author: JJ Flizanes January 20, 2026 Duration: 17:31

In this solo episode, JJ explores a pattern she sees repeatedly in women who are deeply caring, self-aware, and ready for healing—yet hesitate when it's time to invest in themselves.

Drawing from real conversations with women who are caregivers, over-givers, people-pleasers, and survivors of illness, JJ unpacks the deeper truth beneath statements like "I can't afford it." This episode isn't about money—it's about self-worth, nervous system safety, and the beliefs that quietly keep women putting themselves last.

Through the energetic lens of the Year of the Snake and the approaching Fire Horse, JJ explains how awareness alone isn't enough. Healing often requires an embodied choice—a stretch that tells your nervous system, I am worth being supported.

In this episode, you'll hear:

  • Why women so often deprioritize their own healing and well-being

  • How abandonment wounds, caregiving roles, and people-pleasing show up around money

  • What not investing in yourself communicates to your body and subconscious

  • Why aligned investment can be a powerful act of re-patterning and self-trust

  • How choosing yourself builds confidence, self-love, and emotional resilience


This episode is an invitation to value yourself differently in 2026—not by doing more, but by believing you're worthy of support, healing, and expansion.

✨ If you've been feeling the call to invest in yourself but something keeps stopping you, this conversation may help you understand why—and what's possible on the other side of that choice.

If you're ready to change this patterns, let's chat. http://jjflizanes.com.apply


There’s a deep connection between how we care for our bodies and how we show up in our relationships-a truth that Fit 2 Love Podcast with JJ Flizanes explores with refreshing honesty. Hosted by empowerment strategist JJ Flizanes, this isn’t just another wellness show; it’s a thoughtful conversation about building a life where your physical health and emotional well-being aren’t competing priorities, but partners. Each episode feels like a candid chat with a knowledgeable friend, one who understands that a good date night might start with a great workout, or that spiritual clarity can influence what you choose to cook for dinner. You’ll hear practical advice on fitness and nutrition woven together with insights on dating, relationships, and personal growth, all grounded in a holistic view of what it means to truly thrive. This podcast recognizes that self-improvement isn’t a single lane-it’s the entire road map for creating the happy, healthy life you’re aiming for. Whether you’re looking for motivation to move your body or strategies to deepen your connections, JJ provides a nuanced perspective that goes beyond quick fixes. Tune in for a blend of inspiration and actionable steps that address the full picture of your wellness, from the kitchen to the gym to the heart.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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