“I’ve masked so much. I’m a chameleon. I didn’t even know who I was anymore.”
In this episode, Aisling Smith explains how unmasking, self-knowledge, and better workplace design can transform both careers and confidence.
Aisling Smith is an award-winning neurodiversity trainer, international speaker, and inclusion consultant. Late diagnosed autistic and ADHD, she works with organizations worldwide to create neuro-inclusive workplaces and empower neurodivergent employees to thrive without masking.
Episode Highlights
00:02:27 — Discovering neurodivergence through motherhood
Aisling shares how her son’s autism diagnosis led her to recognize her own ADHD and autism. What began as advocacy for her child became a profound personal awakening.
00:07:37 — Masking and losing your sense of self
She describes lifelong masking as becoming a “chameleon” and believing this was normal. The realization reframed decades of exhaustion and emotional strain.
00:10:57 — When labels become tools, not limits
Aisling explains how labels only limit us if we inherit society’s biases. Reclaiming them as self-knowledge creates freedom rather than restriction.
00:16:29 — Leaving corporate training to work authentically
After diagnosis, she realized she could no longer train leadership through a neurotypical lens. This moment sparked her shift into neurodiversity inclusion work.
00:22:00 — Why neurodivergent employees burn out
Workplaces are designed for 80% of people, leaving others to mask and suffer. Burnout is not failure, but a predictable outcome of poor systems.
00:25:30 — The ‘volcanic’ moment at work
Meltdowns are never about one incident. Aisling explains how small ignored stressors build until the final breaking point.
00:27:30 — Empowerment beats accommodation
True inclusion isn’t about special treatment. It’s about empowering everyone to work in ways that suit their nervous system and strengths.
00:33:30 — Productivity doesn’t have one solution
She challenges productivity dogma, arguing that tools work temporarily and must adapt to seasons, energy, and regulation.
00:47:45 — Rebuilding identity with affirmations
Aisling describes dismantling years of internalized criticism by intentionally rewriting self-belief and identity.
00:50:18 — Routines change with life seasons
From 5am routines to single motherhood, she explains why flexibility matters more than discipline when building sustainable habits.
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Website: https://aisling-smith.com/
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/aisling-smith-vance-neurodiversity
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Email: jeremy@focusbear.io
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