261 | What is Nervous System Dysregulation & Why It Matters if You Want to Grow Your Self Confidence

261 | What is Nervous System Dysregulation & Why It Matters if You Want to Grow Your Self Confidence

Author: Devoney Kodad, Anxiety Therapist, Self Confidence Coach & Christian Yoga Teacher May 8, 2025 Duration: 13:35

Ever feel like you're either totally numb or way too overwhelmed — and never really okay? You're not broken. You're outside your window of tolerance — a simple but powerful framework that helps explain why anxiety, shutdown, or emotional chaos show up even when you're trying to "just have faith."

In this episode, we break down what the window of tolerance is, how your nervous system reacts to stress and anxiety, and why understanding this is so important for healing — especially for those in their 20s navigating big transitions, constant pressure, and spiritual questions.

You’ll learn:

  • What the window of tolerance is
  • Signs you're outside of it — and how to come back in
  • Simple, nervous system-soothing practices you can try today


This is your permission to slow down, breathe, and see what you're feeling through a lens of compassion and grace, not shame. God isn’t asking you to push through — He’s inviting you to regulate, rest, and return to peace.


I hope you enjoy, love!



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Devoney Kodad brings her experience as an anxiety therapist, self-confidence coach, and Christian yoga teacher to every conversation on Free & Well: Overcome Anxiety, Stress & Overwhelm & Grow Your Confidence With Mental Health & Faith Based Practices. This isn't about quick fixes; it's a space where practical psychology meets compassionate faith, offering tangible ways to regulate your nervous system and quiet the noise of self-doubt. You'll find a blend of mental wellness tools backed by therapeutic insight alongside spiritual practices that ground and strengthen. Each episode is designed to meet you where you are, whether you're navigating daily stress, deeper anxiety, or simply seeking a more anchored sense of self-worth. The aim is to leave you with something usable-a perspective shift, a breathing technique, a moment of reflection-that builds your confidence one step at a time. By integrating these approaches, the podcast supports a holistic journey toward feeling more free and capable in your own life. Tune in for honest discussions that honor the complexity of mental health while providing clear, actionable pathways forward, all delivered with Devoney's guiding presence.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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