How Can I Make Romance Work For Me?

How Can I Make Romance Work For Me?

Author: Sony Music Entertainment / Jonathan Van Ness February 12, 2025 Duration: 52:05
Jonathan sits down with certified sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram for a Valentine's Day deep dive into the world of romance, sex, and relationships. Together, they explore how to make love work for you—whether you’re single, coupled, or somewhere in between. Shan breaks down the key ingredients of a healthy relationship, explains why we often confuse intensity for intimacy, and shares how to bring more fun, safety, and fulfillment into dating and hookup culture. Plus, they get into the psychology of comparison, the myths around monogamy, and why your Valentine's Day should be about your love story—whatever that looks like. Shan Boodram is a certified sexologist, intimacy expert, and author known for her engaging approach to sex education and relationships. She holds certifications from the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and the American Board of Sexology, and has earned a Master of Science in Psychology. Boodram has gained widespread recognition through her work on various media platforms. She appeared as a sex expert on Netflix's "Too Hot to Handle" and currently hosts the "Lovers and Friends" podcast. Her media presence extends to major networks, including appearances on "The Today Show," "Good Morning America," "The Talk," "The Real," and "The View." You can find Shan Boodram on Instagram @shanboodram, on TikTok @shanboody and on her website www.loversbyshan.com Follow us on Instagram @CuriousWithJVN to join the conversation. Jonathan is on Instagram @JVN. Transcripts for each episode are available at JonathanVanNess.com. Find books from Getting Curious guests at bookshop.org/shop/curiouswithjvn. Our senior producer is Chris McClure. Our editor & engineer is Nathanael McClure. Production support from Julie Carrillo, Anne Currie, and Chad Hall. Our theme music is “Freak” by QUIÑ; for more, head to TheQuinCat.com. Curious about bringing your brand to life on the show? Email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com.  Go to nordvpn.com/jvn with our link, you’ll get an extra 4 months free on the 2-year plan and it’s risk-free with Nord’s 30-day money-back guarantee. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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