Do I have to love myself before anybody can love me?

Do I have to love myself before anybody can love me?

Author: Leah Carey November 5, 2020 Duration: 20:29

After having a baby, a mom is left feeling alone in the process of re-learning her body. Leah explains why it's more than okay to seek support, and how that can generate its own kind of healing.

 

  • A listener gave birth 3 years ago, and is still struggling with her altered body. She asks if she's supposed to deal with it on her own, or if she can ask per partner for support.
  • Leah shares her own struggle with body image, starting at a young age, and how hearing healing words from others is what finally broke through her negative internal messaging.
  • Our culture harmfully socializes us to believe that radical independence in all areas is not only possible, but the goal.
  • Sometimes our partners hold keys to our healing. Leah shows the listener how to start the conversation.

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Update: 
Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak

 


Leah Carey's Good Girls Talk About Sex is built on a simple, powerful premise: honest, unfiltered conversation. As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Leah guides discussions that feel less like interviews and more like the kind of intimate, revealing talk you'd share with a close friend. Each episode features women from an incredibly wide spectrum of life-differing in size, shape, age, orientation, and cultural or religious background. The stories include those from people raised as girls and transgender women, exploring a full range of relationship structures and levels of kink. What you'll hear are personal narratives about sexuality that are often left unspoken, shared without judgment. This podcast moves beyond theory into the lived, human experience, creating a rare space where complexity is welcomed and authenticity is the only rule. Tuning in means listening to voices that are frequently marginalized, finding common ground in unexpected places, and perhaps understanding your own story a little better through the generous sharing of others.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

Good Girls Talk About Sex
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Duration: 41:53
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