How can we safely explore BDSM? – Coaching session with Caitlin & Chris

How can we safely explore BDSM? – Coaching session with Caitlin & Chris

Author: Leah Carey March 11, 2021 Duration: 57:34

Caitlin returns for a follow-up coaching session with her partner, Chris. They check in with Leah about their BDSM explorations, dom/sub dynamics, communication in and out of play sessions, aftercare, safe words, bruising, pleasure, and sourcing and trying new ideas.

  • Caitlin and Chris catch Leah up on the new-to-them BDSM they've been exploring and what they'd like support with.
  • They get into specifics with impact tools, paddles, riding crop, switch, etc. Chris explains how he manages and escalates the impact using a 1-10 scale and timing set to playdate playlist.
  • Leah talks about safe-wording to help Caitlin really get into sub space and also to give Chris reassurance. The line rests in the hands of the sub. Leah also talks about non-verbal safe cues.
  • Chris shares his progress since the start of their sexual partnership.
  • Pleasure dynamics for the dom, and physically dominating vs verbally dominating. Chris has an easier time with one over the other and is naturally a giver, so Leah helps him find new some avenues and techniques.
  • Making a restaurant-style command or activity menu ahead of time can help. Leah shares a few tips.
  • Navigating voyeurism/exhibitionism, consent, and safe places to engage.
  • The Yes/No/Maybe list is great for finding and knowing your hard red lines. It's also a good idea to revisit the list periodically. Leah shares other resources and talks about BDSM tasting events.
  • Chris talks about finding and pushing the limits as a dom while still being careful not to hurt her.
  • Each play session is separate and discrete; always check in fresh.
  • Is pushing BDSM limits healthy? If you're having consensual fun, carry on.

  

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EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak

 


Leah Carey's Good Girls Talk About Sex is built on a simple, powerful premise: honest, unfiltered conversation. As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Leah guides discussions that feel less like interviews and more like the kind of intimate, revealing talk you'd share with a close friend. Each episode features women from an incredibly wide spectrum of life-differing in size, shape, age, orientation, and cultural or religious background. The stories include those from people raised as girls and transgender women, exploring a full range of relationship structures and levels of kink. What you'll hear are personal narratives about sexuality that are often left unspoken, shared without judgment. This podcast moves beyond theory into the lived, human experience, creating a rare space where complexity is welcomed and authenticity is the only rule. Tuning in means listening to voices that are frequently marginalized, finding common ground in unexpected places, and perhaps understanding your own story a little better through the generous sharing of others.
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