How do I turn my libido back on? - Coaching session with Cindy

How do I turn my libido back on? - Coaching session with Cindy

Author: Leah Carey March 25, 2021 Duration: 45:38

Leah shares a coaching session with Cindy, a married mother of one, for support around a very human variety of issues: decreased libido, sex after motherhood, love languages, pandemic life, sex for connection vs. conception, miscarriage, self-care, homework, and grace.

 

Bookmark moments:

  • Cindy talks about participating in coaching in one of Leah's group sessions, and catches us up on what life looks like (sexually and otherwise) a year into the pandemic.
  • Stress can have varied effects on libido—up or down.
  • Can you turn your libido back "on"? Cindy talks about what she did to try, paying more attention to her body, taking better care of it.
  • They talk about trying to use sex to connect *as well as* conceive.
  • Leah helps Cindy hone in on what she wants her sex life to look life.
  • Cindy conceives but suffers a miscarriage; she opens up about the impact.
  • Homework assignments—fun ones, of course—can be a tangible, focused way to take concrete steps towards your goal. And, sometimes the homework is giving yourself grace.
  • Cindy gets specific about what she wants to focus on in her relationship.
  • They speak on love languages: his is gifts, hers is acts of service. Leah helps Cindy navigate through ideas for activities.
  • Leah talks about how coaching can help in different relationship areas and for specific interests, with group and solo options.
  • A post-coaching update from Cindy; and a discussion about being compassionate with yourself about your fears.

Update: 
Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak

 


Leah Carey's Good Girls Talk About Sex is built on a simple, powerful premise: honest, unfiltered conversation. As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Leah guides discussions that feel less like interviews and more like the kind of intimate, revealing talk you'd share with a close friend. Each episode features women from an incredibly wide spectrum of life-differing in size, shape, age, orientation, and cultural or religious background. The stories include those from people raised as girls and transgender women, exploring a full range of relationship structures and levels of kink. What you'll hear are personal narratives about sexuality that are often left unspoken, shared without judgment. This podcast moves beyond theory into the lived, human experience, creating a rare space where complexity is welcomed and authenticity is the only rule. Tuning in means listening to voices that are frequently marginalized, finding common ground in unexpected places, and perhaps understanding your own story a little better through the generous sharing of others.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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