I believed my husband was lying when he said I was sexy - Stephanie

I believed my husband was lying when he said I was sexy - Stephanie

Author: Leah Carey February 18, 2021 Duration: 58:07

Stephanie shares how childhood shame about feeling good in her body led to an eating disorder. She talks about how the eating disorder affected her ability to relate with sexual partners, including her now-husband. Healing the eating disorder has allowed her to begin relating in a new way with her body and her husband.

 

  • Stephanie shares her first memory of sexual play at age 5 or 6, accidentally discovering that rubbing her genitals felt good. The adults around her shamed her, leading her to believe masturbation was a terrible secret.
  • Shame compounds to feeling that her vagina is broken.
  • Stephanie describes a "good girl" upbringing, and being behind her peers in sexual experimentation.
  • An eating disorder manifests in her life.
  • What trauma, even/especially when we don't label it as such, can look like.
  • Stephanie hits a rock bottom with her eating disorder in college, and rebounds into a new willingness to try sex finally.
  • She meets her husband, who makes her feel safe enough to begin to be present in her body during sex. She experiences her first real pleasure.
  • Stephanie elaborates the myriad ways her eating disorder impacts their sexual relationship.
  • While the sex is great in her marriage, Stephanie questions the kissing, and she and Leah go on a deep-dive about embodiment.

 

Update: 
Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak

 


Leah Carey's Good Girls Talk About Sex is built on a simple, powerful premise: honest, unfiltered conversation. As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Leah guides discussions that feel less like interviews and more like the kind of intimate, revealing talk you'd share with a close friend. Each episode features women from an incredibly wide spectrum of life-differing in size, shape, age, orientation, and cultural or religious background. The stories include those from people raised as girls and transgender women, exploring a full range of relationship structures and levels of kink. What you'll hear are personal narratives about sexuality that are often left unspoken, shared without judgment. This podcast moves beyond theory into the lived, human experience, creating a rare space where complexity is welcomed and authenticity is the only rule. Tuning in means listening to voices that are frequently marginalized, finding common ground in unexpected places, and perhaps understanding your own story a little better through the generous sharing of others.
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