I had to give him GPS to find my clit - Alexa

I had to give him GPS to find my clit - Alexa

Author: Leah Carey February 7, 2021 Duration: 52:12

"Deaf U" star Alexa Paulay-Simmons gets candid about who she is (and always has been) as a sexual person, and how that's shaped her life—both on the inside through her choices and experiences, and on the outside with the tight-knit Deaf community and the show's global audience.

Alexa is a 24-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, straight, monogamous, with a sporty body. She was featured in the Netflix series "Deaf U". At the time of this broadcast, she is dating fellow Deaf U cast member Braxton.

  • Alexa shares her first memory of sexual pleasure and asking her mom questions at age 6 or 7.
  • Alexa finally has good sex—with someone she can give instructions to.
  • She talks about how it can be awkward to use your hands for dual purposes—talking and pleasing—during sex.
  • Daddy issues: Alexa struggles with game-playing, distancing herself, and a lack of communication with her sexual partners. With self-awareness, she chose to develop healthier habits.
  • Leah and Alexa discuss the conversation on Deaf U around the unintended pregnancy, and consent (especially around ejaculating inside a woman). Alexa talks about power imbalances and ignored communication in the relationship, and how his wants began to supersede her needs.
  • Alexa's current relationship is full of communication and thereby trust.
  • She shares how the Deaf community has responded to (and judged) her openness about sex.
  • Her father is less than thrilled.
  • Vaginismus is discussed; lubricant is your friend. (If it still hurts even with lube, it's a good idea to get it checked out.)

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Our American Sign Language interpreter for this episode is Courtney Farbman.

 

Update: 
Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak

 


Leah Carey's Good Girls Talk About Sex is built on a simple, powerful premise: honest, unfiltered conversation. As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Leah guides discussions that feel less like interviews and more like the kind of intimate, revealing talk you'd share with a close friend. Each episode features women from an incredibly wide spectrum of life-differing in size, shape, age, orientation, and cultural or religious background. The stories include those from people raised as girls and transgender women, exploring a full range of relationship structures and levels of kink. What you'll hear are personal narratives about sexuality that are often left unspoken, shared without judgment. This podcast moves beyond theory into the lived, human experience, creating a rare space where complexity is welcomed and authenticity is the only rule. Tuning in means listening to voices that are frequently marginalized, finding common ground in unexpected places, and perhaps understanding your own story a little better through the generous sharing of others.
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