I prayed my husband would die so I could have sex again - Gabby

I prayed my husband would die so I could have sex again - Gabby

Author: Leah Carey November 11, 2021 Duration: 1:58:19

What happens when a girl grows up in purity culture and gets married to the first boy who pays attention to her, just so she can have sex? Is purity culture religious abuse?

In this episode we hear that story from Gabby. She is a 34-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, straight but open to exploring, currently non-monogamous with three recurring partners. She has two sons, is pre-menopausal, and describes her body as curvy.

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Gabby grew up in purity culture, signed a no-sex contracts in childhood, and discusses "courting" vs dating

Gabby's husband had a sudden and seemingly permanent decrease in libido

If he's turned off by my genitals, is he gay?

Since leaving the church, Gabby's life has changed dramatically, including dating during COVID and exploring polyamory

We explore parenting while polyamorous

The Lowdown: Gabby answers questions about number of partners, dating different races, sex toys, anal, oral, and choking

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Full show notes at: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/my-vagina-was-dry-as-a-bone-gabby/

 

Update: 
Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak

 


Leah Carey's Good Girls Talk About Sex is built on a simple, powerful premise: honest, unfiltered conversation. As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Leah guides discussions that feel less like interviews and more like the kind of intimate, revealing talk you'd share with a close friend. Each episode features women from an incredibly wide spectrum of life-differing in size, shape, age, orientation, and cultural or religious background. The stories include those from people raised as girls and transgender women, exploring a full range of relationship structures and levels of kink. What you'll hear are personal narratives about sexuality that are often left unspoken, shared without judgment. This podcast moves beyond theory into the lived, human experience, creating a rare space where complexity is welcomed and authenticity is the only rule. Tuning in means listening to voices that are frequently marginalized, finding common ground in unexpected places, and perhaps understanding your own story a little better through the generous sharing of others.
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