I wanted to lose my virginity so I'd stop feeling behind - Alice

I wanted to lose my virginity so I'd stop feeling behind - Alice

Author: Leah Carey December 9, 2021 Duration: 1:04:59

Is it normal to want dating without hook-ups? And what if you don't even know who you want to date?

When you're on the asexual spectrum with bisexual attractions, it can be confusing to chart desire and create a relationship that works for you. Alice from South Africa talks about having very little sex education and a low sex drive, but still finding her way.

Alice is a 23-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, and single. She's not sure how to define her sexual orientation yet (though it's probably not straight), and she's probably monogamous, but clarified "I'm only 23 years old, so who knows?"  She grew up in South Africa and describes her body as thin.

  • Asexuality
  • Demi-sexuality
  • Lack of Sex Education
  • Consent
  • Sexual orientation
  • What is "queer enough"?
  • Does virginity matter

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Full show notes at https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/am-i-asexual-if-i-still-want-to-kiss-people-alice/

 

Update: 
Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak

 


Leah Carey's Good Girls Talk About Sex is built on a simple, powerful premise: honest, unfiltered conversation. As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Leah guides discussions that feel less like interviews and more like the kind of intimate, revealing talk you'd share with a close friend. Each episode features women from an incredibly wide spectrum of life-differing in size, shape, age, orientation, and cultural or religious background. The stories include those from people raised as girls and transgender women, exploring a full range of relationship structures and levels of kink. What you'll hear are personal narratives about sexuality that are often left unspoken, shared without judgment. This podcast moves beyond theory into the lived, human experience, creating a rare space where complexity is welcomed and authenticity is the only rule. Tuning in means listening to voices that are frequently marginalized, finding common ground in unexpected places, and perhaps understanding your own story a little better through the generous sharing of others.
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