My pandemic sex life

My pandemic sex life

Author: Leah Carey January 28, 2021 Duration: 27:48

"The story of our pandemic sex life: it has not been pretty." Host Leah gets raw and real about how her intimate life has weathered the storm of a year-long international crisis, and about how confronting her partner's depression spiral turned out to be a better strategy—for both of them—than enduring it competently.

  • We have transcripts! Plus: part of why that is awesome is our upcoming interview with a deaf guest!
  • Leah opens up about her own sex life during the pandemic.
  • Built into our society, and therefore our healthcare models, is the idea that men shouldn't ask for help. It's not an excuse, but it has had real consequences for Leah and her partner.
  • Here comes the sex (or, doesn't).
  • As her partner's depression and drinking worsens, Leah has the profound realization that her management via being strong and setting boundaries has the side effect of buffering (and thereby supporting) a damaging dynamic.
  • He hears some brutal truth; hearing requires Leah saying it, of course. He gets help.
  • While sex has been slow to re-enter the relationship, there have been benefits to the work they've done.

Podcast recommendation:

  • Title – Heaving Bosoms
  • Hosts – Erin and Melody
  • Description - Best friends and romance lovers, Erin and Melody, recap romance novels from a comedic, open-hearted feminist, sex-positive perspective! Giggling, tangents, and sincere joy abound! We take ourselves VERY seriously.
  • Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/heavingbosoms

 

Update: 
Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak


Leah Carey's Good Girls Talk About Sex is built on a simple, powerful premise: honest, unfiltered conversation. As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Leah guides discussions that feel less like interviews and more like the kind of intimate, revealing talk you'd share with a close friend. Each episode features women from an incredibly wide spectrum of life-differing in size, shape, age, orientation, and cultural or religious background. The stories include those from people raised as girls and transgender women, exploring a full range of relationship structures and levels of kink. What you'll hear are personal narratives about sexuality that are often left unspoken, shared without judgment. This podcast moves beyond theory into the lived, human experience, creating a rare space where complexity is welcomed and authenticity is the only rule. Tuning in means listening to voices that are frequently marginalized, finding common ground in unexpected places, and perhaps understanding your own story a little better through the generous sharing of others.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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