#569 The Numbness Paradox: Why Avoiding Pain Kills Your Joy

#569 The Numbness Paradox: Why Avoiding Pain Kills Your Joy

Author: Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. January 9, 2026 Duration: 13:51

In an attempt to cope with a harsh and overwhelming world, many of us unconsciously desensitize ourselves to block out pain. But here is the catch: our emotions do not have selective volume knobs; when we numb the darkness, we also numb the light. In this episode, we explore this numbness paradox—why avoiding pain kills your joy—and how to safely open your heart to feel fully alive again.

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