997 - How Native Speakers Soften Statements in English

997 - How Native Speakers Soften Statements in English

Author: Michael DiGiacomo Happy English February 23, 2026 Duration: 8:48
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People often say that Americans speak very directly. Have you ever heard that? Have you ever thought that? Well in some cases it’s true, but quite often in every English conversation, we tend to soften our language in order to sound less direct. And that’s what today’s podcast English lesson is all about.

Have you ever noticed that native English speakers don’t always speak in extremes? We often use phrases to soften our language like,  “I’m kind of tired.” “It’s a bit cold outside.” Or when someone asks, “Are you hungry?” we don’t always say, “No.” We say, “Not really.” Native speakers soften things all the time.  So today, we’re going to look at five very common softening phrases: kind of, sort of, a bit, a little, and not really. These small phrases can completely change your tone and make your English sound more natural, more polite, and more conversational.


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