Ashley James: You’re a bimbo! Mumsy! Bossy! How we shrink confidence out of girls

Ashley James: You’re a bimbo! Mumsy! Bossy! How we shrink confidence out of girls

Author: Fearne Cotton February 9, 2026 Duration: 1:02:02

You’re a bimbo. A nag. Too mumsy. Too bossy. Ever had any of those labels put on you? Far from harmless words, Ashley James is clear they all work to shrink women and girls.


In this chat with Fearne, Ashley recalls her first experiences of street harassment, and the way she victim blamed herself.


They also explore the shame that keeps women silent about their altered bodies after giving birth; Ashley talks about her own post-partum body, including the reality of piles, prolapse, and vaginismus.


Wondering if marriage is right for you? Ashley runs through her pros and cons. Plus, are we still allowed to watch and enjoy wildly problematic films like Grease...?


Ashley’s book, Bimbo, is out on February 12th.


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